Tips on How to Get Over a Breakup

         

       Are you sitting around asking yourself, what now? Life after a breakup can be extremely tough, especially when you have spent years of your time with that person. Between going on first dates, to meeting their friends and family, all of this took time and energy to get to that point. But, what happens when all of a sudden this love story ends? We all know that feeling of failure and disappointment in relationships and I have to admit it stings! I have been through breakups a few times before meeting my husband and there were a couple of things that I did to make getting over a breakup less difficult. Everybody's situation is different, but it is worth a shot! Here are my tips on how to get over a breakup.

Step 1. Do Not Stay in Bed

    This step can seem pretty obvious, but I mean it. This is one of the worst things that we can do if we are trying to get over someone. At first, it's normal to lay in bed and shed tears as we go through the initial shock phase, but what we don't want is to make a habit of this as the days go on. This could cause us to become depressed and to not want to leave the house, which can only make things worse. If you are like me, someone who loves the bed and staying in, try to do other things like reading a book, playing video games, film videos, pamper yourself, etc. It is important to keep your mind occupied while staying at home.

Step 2. Continue to Pamper Yourself

   Sometimes when we are in a relationship, we tend to show so much attention to our partners that we forget that we matter too. I am the type of person that loves to make other people feel special and keep them happy. But I have to admit that a lot of times I forget about my own happiness. If you love getting your nails and makeup done, go and do just that. There is nothing wrong with pampering yourself and putting yourself first. Continue to do the things that you love while in the relationship because you never want to lose a sense of who you are during or after the relationship.

Step 3. Stay Healthy

    I know, I know, this can be extremely tough to do right after a breakup but the effort is what matters. When we are down and depressed, junk food seems like the easier option to get us through the day and while this okay every once in while, creating a habit is what we don't want to do. As we all know, junk food can lead to health problems, bad skin, weight gain and other unwanted problems. Add that to getting over a breakup and you have a disaster on your hands. Also, junk food doesn't help better your mood, it can make you feel tired and grouchy. Healthy foods have been proven to boost your mood and make you happy.

    Healthy foods are a great start but lets not forget to stay active. Exercising is a great way to release some stress and make you feel good about yourself. Exercising can actually improve your mental health because it can reduce depression, and anxiety while improving your self esteem. This is also a great time to bring a friend along to catch up on things while you workout. Overall, exercising is great for your health and can make you live longer.

Step 4. Hangout with Friends & Family

    There is nothing like having a support system when you are going through a breakup. I know that many of us tend to lose touch of some of our friends and family while being in a relationship which is normal but do not be afraid to contact them and tell them how much you appreciate them. Everyone has gone through some type of tough situation in life, so many people can relate and will try to help you get through this rough patch. If they ask you to hangout with them, get up and go. If they call you or text, then respond. Any opportunity that you might have to get out of the house and hangout or speak to a positive influence in your life will do you good. Don't avoid these people in your life, who knows they might need you someday.

Step 5. Try to Accept the Change

    This one may be a hard pill to swallow, but as a part of moving on, we have to accept that when something is done, it's done. I always thought it was easier for me to accept things as what they were because I knew that if I kept thinking that maybe tomorrow he will come back, I would never get the peace that I deserved. I would set myself up for disappointment if I kept thinking "what if." Previously when I used to think that way I would always find myself looking at my ex's Facebook page to see if they changed their relationship status to single just to see if there was hope. But, those lingering thoughts in my head only made it getting over him more difficult and boy, did it hurt when you find out they moved on pretty quickly. For this reason it is best to avoid searching for your ex through social media to see what they have been up to and just focus on yourself.

Step 6: Your Dating Life is Not Over

    This doesn't mean that you have to start dating right away. It can take weeks, months or even years before someone is ready to put themselves back out there after a breakup and that is normal. But, just because it didn't work out with your last relationship does not mean that there isn't a future husband right around the corner, if that's what you want. It is important to know what you want in a relationship, that would make things easier when communicating with a future partner so that you are both on the same page. Love is out there, whether you want to search actively or just let it happen. I found my husband on Facebook, I was not searching for anyone at the time but it just happened. Of course, you have to be cautious with dating online, but don't just limit yourself to the internet either, go out there and meet new people. You might be surprised by the people you run into.

In summary.......

Life is full of unexpected events. Between giving birth, death, marriage, and breakups. All of these events give us life lessons that we can all choose to learn and grow from. The best thing we can do is choose how we want to deal with it. If we think positively and try to make the best out of any situation, we will always come out okay. But remember your life is not over after a breakup and you should not put your life on pause because of it. There are plenty of things out there that we can do to keep ourselves satisfied and get over a breakup, get out there and have FUN. Good luck and best of wishes on your new journey.